Having taken a look at some of yesterday’s parenting styles published by Doha Today, it is also good for parents to introspect and see where they stand vis-à-vis these approaches. However, it would be in the best interest of the children and parents that they bear in mind the following tips:
Help your child sprout wings. Giving a child responsibility is good for her/his self-esteem. Your child’s mission in life is to gain independence. So when s/he is developmentally capable of putting her/his toys away, clearing her/his plate from the table, and dressing her/him, let her/him.
Teach the child self-reliance and let them be independent in some matters. Give young kids a chance to find their own solutions. When you lovingly acknowledge a child’s minor frustrations without immediately rushing in to save her/him, you teach her/him self-reliance and resilience.
Discipline is not punishment. Some parents give the young ones a long rope to do things the way they want in order to save trouble. It can do a lot of damage in the long run. Parents are the custodians of children’s discipline. Disciplining them is not punishing them, but channeling them in the right course of action. Enforcing limits is really about teaching kids how to behave in the world and helping them to become competent, caring, and in control.
No Corporal Punishment
Some parents suffer from a patience deficit, lose control and soon inflict physical punishment. In some cases, even daughters are hit. Some mothers also vent their anger on the children for not doing well at studies or for repeated misbehaviour or for adolescent tantrums. Parents need to learn here is that most of the physical punishments are counter-productive. Silent, peaceful corrective measures will yield better results than violence. Violence leaves unforgettable scars in the children!
Can parents play with children?
This is a meaningful and memorable way to bond with the children. It can be like the father of Boris Becker teaching him the fundamental lessons of Tennis and making the child a hero, or on a smaller scale a fortnightly visit to the playing field or the beach and joining the children in their games.
Can parents spend some time every day or alternate days? Let your child choose an activity where you hang out together for 10 to 15 minutes without any interruptions. This is yet another way to show you care and love.
Read books together
Get started when the child is a newborn; babies love listening to the sound of their parents’ voices. Cuddling up with your child with a book is a great bonding experience that will set him/her up for a lifetime of reading. As the children grow, it can be watching movies together, playing scrabble, reading the child’s books and having fun asking them questions on the text and many more! In senior grades, parents can discuss matters of serious and solemn nature including discussing world affairs or scientific facts of general interest.
Encourage daddy and mommy time
The greatest untapped resource available for improving the lives of our children is time with Dad and Mom—early and often. Kids with engaged fathers do better in school, problem-solve more successfully, and generally cope better with whatever life throws at them. As children grow older, children should feel and know that parents are their best friends. This can save many a son/daughter from inextricable emotional entanglements and problems that arise therefrom.
Lay foundations of warm memories
Your children will probably not remember anything that you say to them while they are little and young, but they will recall the family routine—like family dinner where all are active and make the mealtime invariable bubbly, lively and memorable, regular family prayer, bedtime stories and game night.
Father and mother must make sure that mealtime is the most precious moments of togetherness. They should discuss school, what the children had in school, complementing the young ones for their day well spent, and discussing ways of making the following day even more rewarding than today and so on.
Set up a “gratitude circle” every night at dinner
Father or mother may go around the table and take turns talking about the various people who were generous and kind to each of you that day. It may sound corny, but it makes everyone feel good.
Avoid unnecessary battles
A parent had better show the kid rules in action. For example, the Father has a permanent place for his things and tells the kids at home “Have a place for everything and have everything in their place”. Kids can’t absorb too many rules without turning off completely. Forget arguing about little stuff. Focus on the things that really matter, that means no hitting, rude talk, or no lying.
Parent Models For children
Father is the hero and mother is the heroine! So, they look up towards them for everything. While for parents it is easy to
November 13, 2017 TO November 13, 2017